“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” ― Dr. Seuss
Look, I’m sorry I didn’t pick up writing blog posts for a long time, and I’m pretty sure you will not be looking forward for this subject as much as you did for my other “inventive” short stories. So, if you have already started reading this, why not finish it?
I’m going to straight away start from the basics – The Definitions.
Lust – strong sexual desire.
Infatuation – an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something.
Love – (n) a strong feeling of affection. (v) feel deep affection or sexual love for (someone).
Well, there is a lot of difference between each one of them. And that is something really complex to find out what kind of feeling we’re “actually” feeling. Of course, every guy who’s in infatuation says that he/she loves the other person just as much as a person who’s “actually” in love. But what’s that cuts the ice?
It’s the feelings – in itself.
All you got to do to figure out all of this is to sit in a quiet place, and have some peaceful time with just you, and your mind. Doing a bit of research, I found out this interesting comparison – might as well share it here:
- Love develops gradually over time. Infatuation occurs almost instantaneously.
- Love can last a long time. It becomes deeper and more powerful over time. Infatuation is powerful, but short-lived.
- Love accepts the whole person, imperfections and all. Infatuation flourishes on perfection – you have an idealized image of your partner and you only show your partner your good side.
- Love is more than physical attraction. Infatuation focuses on the physical.
- Love is energizing. Infatuation is draining.
- Love improves your overall disposition. Infatuation brings out jealousy and obsessiveness. It causes you to neglect other relationships.
- Loves survives arguments. Infatuation glosses over arguments.
- Love considers the other person. Infatuation is selfish.
- Love is being in love with a person. Infatuation is being in love with love.
Love is celebration. Unlike infatuation, which drains you out if you don’t get to see that person you desire for, love keeps you happy. Love keeps you going. Love is when you do little sacrifices and never let your pride take control of yourself. Love is when you start changing for the better. Love is the fuel, and mind is the vehicle. Love is commitment. Love is when you choose “we” over “me”. Love is when you both work together to build a good life.
Love is that strength which keeps you going when everything around you goes to hell. Love is that feeling which keeps you in check. Before you do any action, you think the consequences that would affect “we” instead of “me”. It’s when you lose all those selfish thoughts about yourself and make sacrifices for the person you love and you would really not boast about these sacrifices because boasting is not what you did them for, it’s the care and affection you’ve got for them that made you do the sacrifices.
Love is when you have confidence in him/her even when you both might not be together. It’s about holding on tight when everyone tell you to leave. Love is when you panic if you aren’t aware of what your love’s condition is. It’s when you start crying (being a guy or a girl, never be shy of crying) over the thought of your love getting hurt. Love is that feeling which makes you who you are.
Love is experienced in the present moment. It makes you forget all those sad memories and tension of the future, and just let’s you be who you are. Love makes you complete.
So, that was about it. I know, a pretty long post about “love”,”infatuation” and all, but hey, lust is still left out. But, that is not a very big deal either.
Lust is basically a strong desire towards the opposite gender because of their physical attraction, and nothing more. It lasts for a very little time, and can sometimes grow into infatuation. That’s all.
So all my lovers out there, happy Hallowe’en! Cheers!